You Don’t Automatically Know What To Do
The way you envision your first kiss with someone (or any other first you share with them) is never the way you think it would be. You think kissing someone is simple until you have to really think about it – what do you do with your hands or your face, or really anything.
Hollywood never shows you accidentally kicking them in the jaw, or getting lettuce stuck in your teeth or what to do when you accidentally use all the toilet paper at their house.
I never held hands with a boy until I was 19 – let alone kiss him or tell him “I love him” or eat garlic food with him in a confined space.
Having now met someone I can eat garlic food with, the deepest connection you can have, I can say that all the awkward stories make it worth it. How many Hollywood movies have a story line where the girl breaks both of their bathrooms while possibly locking a dog/another human being in there? Not many but mine does.
College Is Not What The Movies Tell You.
College is basically a lot of mediocre looking people trying to pass LuLu Lemons as dress pants. College is girls trying to avoid the person they matched with on Tinder last night, while someone wrote “boobs” on the whiteboard in the Marketing Lab. College is where you pay $150 for a parking pass – even though you still have to park on the road.
If college is anything though, it’s watching Netflix while writing a thesis at 2 a.m. and crying because you don’t understand why Rachel chose Ross on the last episode of Friends.
People Are (Usually) Nice.
As a former private school kid, I used to think public school kids just drank alcohol constantly and smoked cigars. Having never met a person my age who smoked cigars or who drinks pure alcohol all hours of the day – my perception of people is much different than when I was twelve.
It’s okay to assume people are genuinely nice when you first meet them. You can change your assumption later if you need to.
Unless you mean no, then say no.
But trying to learn how to throw a frisbee won’t kill you and going to a concert might actually be fun. You don’t have to get in the kayak – but you should. It’s okay to wear a skirt that’s higher than your knees, even in December, if that’s what you want. Eat Chinese food and order the extra egg roll, stop living like you’re a size 0 and embrace your size 10 pants.
Stand Up For Yourself.
If it’s to the kid who bullies you in the yearbook class, or the friend who makes fun of you shoes, or the teacher who keeps giving you 70’s instead of the 80 you deserve – stand up for yourself.
Also know when it’s time to sit down.
Embrace that Embarrassing Things Happen to Everyone.
I don’t know how many times I can emphasize this in a blog post (actually until someone validates me), but everyone pees their pants past the time it is socially acceptable. Everyone wonders if the weird smell is them and everyone accidentally tells a customer “I love you” instead “have a good day” at some point.
I’m not sure if everyone does those things but I have, so let’s just roll with it.